What does staying connected actually mean to you? - by Shelly MacGregor

Shelly MacGregor: It was over coffee a couple weeks ago that a friend shared some results of a questionnaire that was given to girls around the age of 15. The questions were based on what skills would these girls like to learn from a confidence building course. One of the revelations discovered was the girls were hoping to learn ways to get their parents off their phones.

Is this is a surprise to you?

It was to me. I have witnessed parenting techniques to help control the children’s use by scheduling time on technology or using the iPad to pass the time while travelling, or a distraction while we have an adult moment, or replacing the time we use to watch a TV program together but are we limiting our adult time online to form relationships, create memories through emotion and build social connection with the most important people in our lives?

This article articulates what we may not be providing to each other but are finding online.

John Brandon at INC shares:

“Micro-feedback taps into our desire as humans to be noticed, to be credited, to experience recognition. As society becomes more and more insular, more cocooned with media and gadgets, we're all looking for more feedback on our phones because we're certainly not getting feedback in person” Read more here.

At Apex we offer a meaningful human connection. We see you, hear you and recognize your commitment to bringing wellness into your life.

If you feel stressed, lonely or disconnected here are 3 ways to help you live in a better way.

1.      Stress rapidly eats up your bodies Vitamin B stores – consuming mussels, sardines, tuna, avocado, potatoes, Brazil nuts, eggs or incorporating a supplement will help keep your stores full.
2.      Loneliness can show up as physical and mental symptoms. We may physically feel illness or headaches, while mental health conditions might increase our risk of depression, anxiety, paranoia or panic attacks. 
      Here are 5 habits to consider: nurturing others, connecting weekly with humans, sleep better, staying open, and ask yourself “What is missing in my life?”.
      Read more details about this here.


3.      To manage the feeling of stress, try keeping a stress diary. Writing down your thoughts and fears over a few weeks will start to help you become more aware of the situations that are causing you the most stress. Keep notes date, times, place and situation as well as, what you were doing, who was there and how you felt both physically and emotionally. Your diary can also have a scorecard. Rate your experience from 1 – 10 to understand why and what the trigger to your stress may be; giving you insight and possibly coping mechanisms for future events.




Shelly MacGregor is the Owner of Apex Massage Therapy Ltd. and the Founder of Spagoes and Spa 901 in Fernie BC