3 things you can do right now to put yourself on a pedestal.
Most of us know this term as a negative description of someone that has put themselves on a pedestal or the unbalanced romantic relationship when someone puts their partner on a pedestal (they can do no wrong).
We all know, each of us can do wrong and when we make mistakes, we are knocked off our pedestal, lowing our self esteem and creating self-doubt in our worth.
The reality is, we can put ourselves back up on a pedestal with these mindful thoughts and actions, while maintaining our view as equal to everyone else.
1. What story are you telling yourself when you see someone more successful, smarter, or prettier with more friends? This all may be true but it is how your let your thoughts go from “they are smart” to, “I am not smart” or “I have not done enough” or “I should be”. This thought pattern needs interruption. Watch your thoughts, when they take you to comparing yourself to others and before they take you down that rabbit hole, recognize what took you there and limit your access to it: IE Social media.
As soon as you hear your thoughts of doubt, stop what you are doing physically and change your pattern. Go outside, walk the dog or sit down and pick up a fictional book; you can also make a list of the things you have done, problems you have solved, make a list of your dearest friends or call a family member.
2. Ask yourself why you haven’t put your health and wellness above anything or anyone else? Putting our own needs first can be daunting, but claiming our needs are as important as someone else’s is the first step to changing the old pattern of self-sacrifice, that old belief benefits no one. At the very least, start thinking our health is as important as someone else’s, seeing our self as equally important will help us slowly crawl up onto the pedestal without knocking someone else off.
3. What are your core values? Discovering your core values will uncover why you do things the way you do them. Once you identify your values, you will make decisions that design a life that is in better alignment with your true self. If there is a growing gap between your actions and your values, we can feel lost, out of touch with our needs and suddenly extend ourselves in ways that are not healthy.
There is room in this life to stand on your pedestal with humility, pride and an awareness that we never have to knock someone off their pedestal to be on our own.
Shelly
